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The Most Important Person In Your Life

June 1, 2016 by EnnisP Leave a Comment

Treat each person like there is no other.

The Most Important
Person
Is Not
Who You Think

I recently attended the memorial service of an acquaintance whose death was a shock to everyone. She was quite young. She left two school aged children and a husband who loved her. In fact, everyone loved her. The service was packed, standing room only, which says a lot about the impression she made on folks.

While sitting in the service it occurred to me that we don’t know when or how death might come knocking and it would behoove us all to ask and answer the question:

If I were to die tomorrow and knew it today, what would I consider the most important thing in my life in the present?

My first thought was, that’s a great topic for a sermon, but after thinking about it a bit my enthusiasm was flattened. My original idea wasn’t to think up a collection of Most-Important issues from which you could make a selection. Take some, leave some. I was focused on the ABSOLUTELY most important things for every person. The list I wanted to write included only imperatives. No possibles or maybes.

And you’re probably thinking the same question that occurred to me. How can you say that? We’re all different.

But then I thought again and realized there are a few things that are Most-Important for everyone. Let me explain. [Read more…] about The Most Important Person In Your Life

Filed Under: Christian Living, Human Relations, Philosophy

Love’s Language Is What?

February 18, 2016 by EnnisP 2 Comments

Love is a two step process: learn what language to speak and learn to speak it.

Love Is Spoken
In Many Different
Languages

The need for love is common to us all, but it isn’t the same for everyone.

We all need love in some way, and each person loves in his or her own way, but just getting on with it, without thought, may not be the best approach.

People who are loved don’t usually overdose on self-loathing but according to Glamour.Com, 97% of women find their bodies disgusting everyday. Either they aren’t being loved at all, which I doubt, or the love they’re getting is lost in translation.

A part of the problem may the human tendency to take the simple approach. Treat everyone the same. No thinking is required. No special effort is made. We just do for each person what we always do. And it’s usually what we’d like done in return.

If you’re a thinking person you realize that that approach is an insult to individuality. There is a difference between taking someone out for a movie and going to a movie, dragging them along with you.

It’s now common knowledge that every person’s receptors pick up love signals in different ways. We have Gary Chapman to thank for that. His book, The 5 Love Languages, makes the argument well. [Read more…] about Love’s Language Is What?

Filed Under: Family, How To, Human Relations

The Butterfly Effect – Everyone, Everything’s Connected

November 29, 2015 by EnnisP Leave a Comment

God makes neither junk nor finished products.

Ring around the rosy
A pocket full
of posies
Ashes, Ashes
We all fall down

Ring Around The Rosy is one of the best known and time enduring nursery rhymes. Ever! It may be the first.

It is widely known throughout the English speaking world and versions are also found in German, Dutch and Italian. Even more noteworthy is the fact that it dates back to the Great London Plague – mid 1600’s – or possibly earlier.

We don’t know exactly when it was first written or popularized but that’s not the important question.

The important question is how did such a short and apparently meaningless nursery rhyme become so popular?

What influential person wrote it?

How was it popularized without a major publisher?

We don’t have answers to these questions but we do know what inspired it. This little ditty was motivated by a flea. Not a great person. Not a great publisher, but a flea.

One small flea made this happen. [Read more…] about The Butterfly Effect – Everyone, Everything’s Connected

Filed Under: Christian Living, Church, Human Relations

Women’s Rights And Cultural Limitations

August 13, 2015 by EnnisP Leave a Comment

Sojourner Truth wasn't educated but she had more sense than those who were!

Culture Is Not
Inspired

My intention with this post is to argue that all people should be seen as fitting into one category, the human race, rather than pigeonholed by limiting and restrictive boundaries.

The focus is primarily on Women’s Rights, or maybe I should say the abuse of women’s rights, but admittedly women aren’t the only class effected. Women represent only one subheading, but how widely spread the abuse of rights is, is not the biggest problem. In the case of women it was endemic to every culture.

The rules – whatever they were, however they were written – that denied women their basic rights (their individuality and personhood) were honored in every home, in every era. The home is the cookie cutter for culture. It’s not easy to escape the shaping of such a widespread mechanism.

It was self perpetuating in an almost unrecognizable way. It was abuse wrapped in “civility.”

To be clear, the argument isn’t that men and women are all exactly the same. We know that isn’t true, but that’s also true for all men and all women. Everyone is an individual! No person is exactly like any other person.

Not all women are athletic but many are, just like men.

The fact is, the difference between one gender and another is biologically determined. Biology! Nothing more, nothing less. No one should be disallowed an opportunity or universal, inalienable privilege because of gender.

Dilly is an induced state. It is the outcome of duncifying cultural rules. Telling a person they aren’t allowed to do something is the same as telling them they aren’t able.

Stereotypical thinking or what I like to call framing, is the problem. We like to fit groups into little boxes with predefined sets of good or bad qualities, and greater or lesser capabilities, and we do this even for the smallest groups.

If you live in a certain neighborhood, you must be smart.

It’s the easy way out. Rather than take each person at face value, and allow them to emerge one way or another, we frame entire groups with what we believe to be the dominant features of the group. If several are headlined as criminals, they must all be criminally predisposed.

The short of it is we like frames, and we particularly like to frame people.

We assume:

  • All doctors are incapable of writing legibly.
  • All Asians love mathematics.
  • All people with multicolored hair are insecure.
  • All athletes are dumb jocks.

Jannie Du Plessis is a qualified Doctor.Jannie Du Plessis illustrates how inaccurate these stereotypes can be. Even though he plays at the highest level in one of the hardest hitting sports, Rugby, he’s also a qualified doctor. The man’s got smarts.

Stereotyping is easy. We don’t have to work so hard at figuring people out if we can place them in one of the predefined boxes, if we can assume what they’ll do next. But it’s all wrong. Stereotypes are anecdotally generated and culturally fed. There’s no basis in credible research.

But that’s not all. [Read more…] about Women’s Rights And Cultural Limitations

Filed Under: Family, Human Relations, Philosophy

Insights On The Jaguars Following 2014 Season

January 7, 2015 by EnnisP Leave a Comment

Football: Made in America, appeals to humanity

American Football Appeals
To Analytical Minds
Everywhere

My friend, David, was born and raised in South Africa (and very naturally lives and breathes rugby) but through American friends was introduced to American football. He’s now a football believer and follows the game more closely than most Americans. He’s also got a very keen analytical mind (he’s in the law profession) and remembers everything he reads or hears.

Fortunately, he’s also a Jaguars fan so at the end of the 2014 season I asked for his thoughts on how the head coach, Gus Bradley, was doing. Following was his response. [Read more…] about Insights On The Jaguars Following 2014 Season

Filed Under: Blogging, Human Relations, Sport

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