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Review: Words Kids Need to Hear by David Staal

March 1, 2011 by EnnisP Leave a Comment

Words Kids Need To Hear by David Staal

Words Kids Need to Hear is another parenting-how-to offering by David Staal in which he explores seven key phrases or words every child needs to hear, words that strengthen the heart.

Although these words should be heard first and most from parents, they are universal. Every relationship can benefit by using these words sincerely, often, in the right context and in any language.
 

  • I Believe In you
  • You Can Count On Me
  • I Treasure You
  • I’m Sorry, Please Forgive Me
  • Because
  • No
  • I Love You

The book isn’t long – 138 pages – but it is sufficiently deep to merit reading. Dave doesn’t hide the wisdom it contains behind excessive verbiage. Its pithy statements shoot right to the heart of the issue.

  • “Sometimes the words kids really need to hear are those they say to a parent willing to listen.”
  • Parents to children: “We will stand by your side when you make good choices and bad choices.”
  • “A world of difference exists between I congratulate you and I treasure you.”
  • “The skill to apologize and request forgiveness typically comes handed down from a parent or other close adult who models such behavior.”
  • “The words kids need to hear can also arrive as words they read.”
  • “It’s not your child’s responsibility to make you feel loved”…but…”few parents know how to transfer their heartfelt love to the hearts of their children.”

And that last remark expresses the real intent of the book. Dave isn’t encouraging us to speak to the heads of our children – only with words – he gives these principles context. [Read more…] about Review: Words Kids Need to Hear by David Staal

Filed Under: Book Reviews, Family, Parenting

OT Law Allows Parents To Stone Children

October 27, 2010 by EnnisP 2 Comments

Did OT Law Really Allow Parents
The Option of Stoning Rebellious Children?

Yes, according to the following passage:

If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who will not obey the voice of his father or the voice of his mother, and, though they discipline him, will not listen to them, 19 then his father and his mother shall take hold of him and bring him out to the elders of his city at the gate of the place where he lives, 20 and they shall say to the elders of his city, This our son is stubborn and rebellious; he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton and a drunkard. 21 Then all the men of the city shall stone him to death with stones. So you shall purge the evil from your midst, and all Israel shall hear, and fear. Deuteronomy 21:18-21

But, as far as we know this law was never invoked in OT days and there is good reason to believe God never expected it to be. It was intended to make a point not prescribe a rule. It reads more like satire. No doubt Jonathan Swift got the idea for “A Modest Proposal” from this very text.

Then and now, parents were the primary influence in molding the character of a child’s life and, as the following text indicates God expects parents to use every waking moment to nurture good qualities in the lives of their offspring. [Read more…] about OT Law Allows Parents To Stone Children

Filed Under: Family, Old Testament, Parenting

“Emotional Intelligence” by Daniel Goleman

May 25, 2010 by EnnisP Leave a Comment

Emotional Intelligence is a must read for every parent. It speaks to an area of human development that has huge implications for personal health, relationship happiness and success in business (what every parent wants for their children).

Emotional issues, however, have been mostly ignored up until recent history and current research is scattered here and yon. Goleman brings all the relevant information together in one source and makes the point that emotional health is not only imperative it is possible for all.

The good news is, the information is useful for every person at any stage in life. Whether your children are young adults or prenatal it’s never too late or early. Even older adults have something to gain from this read.

Goleman does what hasn’t been done before, associating intelligence with emotion and suggesting that this kind of smarts is as important, if not more, than the academic kind. In fact, he sites studies that suggest the difference between success and failure has more to do with emotional intelligence (EQ) than it does with IQ. That is actually the opening argument of the book, “Why it (EQ) can matter more than IQ.” [Read more…] about “Emotional Intelligence” by Daniel Goleman

Filed Under: Book Reviews, Parenting

When Children Leave Home

August 20, 2009 by EnnisP Leave a Comment

Some things can't be learned in the nest.

If Children Never Leave
They Cease To Grow

A while back we put our second son, Timothy, on the plane to the USA from South Africa. We had done this before but this time it was different. Previously there had always been a date he would return “home” and the time away wouldn’t be that long, six weeks at the most. This time, however, he was returning to the States for at least six months and if all went well he would settle there for good. At the time, these were not easy thoughts to entertain. [Read more…] about When Children Leave Home

Filed Under: Parenting

How Do Parents Earn the Trust of Their Children?

March 10, 2009 by EnnisP Leave a Comment

We naturally gravitate to people we trust whether they are good or bad.

Safeguard Trust And Children
Won’t Require
So Much Protection

Trust. Without it, everything falls apart, especially in a family setting. When it is assumed, our most important relationships are bound to fail and that leaves us feeling desperate.

Children can explore the world confidently only if home remains a safe place to recuperate from life’s inevitable bruises. When parents can be trusted to offer acceptance and understanding instead of criticism and rejection, they help insulate their children from the bad elements of the world. Unfortunately, kids often resort to the world because home has failed them. When children don’t develop a bond of trust with parents, home becomes an emotional prison from which they will do anything to escape. [Read more…] about How Do Parents Earn the Trust of Their Children?

Filed Under: Family, Parenting Tagged With: children, home, parents, trust

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